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Gary Spangler's avatar

One message I gleaned is that ignoring some of our “life-pots” might allow them to have their own best lives. And in return we are able to plant in some new pots of our own.

I sensed freedom as I read this today.

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3musesmerge's avatar

Hmmm… I recently said to someone that it is not in my nature to meddle in the business of others. I guess this spring that also applied to shed seeds in untouched planters!

Ahhh! Freedom. There is a higher power and I am not it.

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Robert Boyle's avatar

Love this insight Gary!

“ignoring some of our “life-pots” might allow them to have their own best lives”

I’ve been reading a lot recently in the space of reinvention and mental clarity.

That led me down a path of seemingly contradictory statements/advice:

-Developing inside and outside harmony (“be yourself around others” and “be authentic” fit here.

-“Do not think your thoughts don’t matter. Your thoughts make you.” (Paraphrased quote on the wall above my cubicle.

-You are not a thinker. You are an observer of your thoughts (“meta cognition”)

-True self and false self (Rohr, Mate and Don Miguel Ruiz) around “personality” and “expectation.”

What you made me realize and then wonder with your comment is two things:

a. It can be truly enlivening and freeing to discard “old” stuff

b. I may be missing out precisely because I’m focusing/seeking -- maybe there are elements that do best when not focused on.

Hmmm...

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Gary Spangler's avatar

I believe that in our seeking one can easily slip into expectations/preferred outcomes. In turn that can influence our clarity of mind to see all possibilities as having value.

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3musesmerge's avatar

100%

I was gifted an opportunity to explore expectations with the kid this morning. Fascinating stuff!

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Robert Boyle's avatar

“...letting go of something old to make space for something(s) new.”

I often feel the pinch when I skip the first part of letting go and simply add something new.

I also struggle with even the phrase “letting go” -- seems (to me) that the phrase implies unfinished, incomplete, disloyal -- even more personally challenging for me than “failed” as I have learned to love failure and embracing the word.

Hmmm...this will be good for me to simmer on a bit. Didn’t realize how much of a trigger that phrase would be!

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3musesmerge's avatar

Hmmm… Now I’m simmering, too! There’s a reason we are friends! 😂

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Harper Thorpe's avatar

Gail, I shared your article with my wife, which she read immediately. Before she gave me her reaction, I was interpreting her expression and felt the need to say, “I don’t think I’m the ‘something old’ Gail was talking about!” 😏

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3musesmerge's avatar

You are not! 😂

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Jack Herlocker's avatar

We are always delighted (and often surprised) by the “annuals” who keep going year after year. Like our tough pansies (how did “pansy” become a derogatory term meaning weak, when the ones we know handle frost and freezing?) and “bring inside” begonias (now coming back after their third winter outside — the first time was “oops,” the second time was “can they do it again?”, last winter was “nah, they’re fine, leave ‘em!”).

OTOH we also have our “once and done” mums that should have lasted. 😢 But others are filling out nicely and we have great hopes. 😊

Gardens are for those who can roll with uncertainty and delight in the unexpected. 🪻🌷🌺🌸🌻

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3musesmerge's avatar

Begonias outside in your climate? Wow!

And I too have had almost no luck with “hardy” mums.

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Bobby Kountz's avatar

“Gardens are for those who can roll with uncertainty and delight in the unexpected.”

~Jack H.

Brilliant Quote!

🙌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙌🏼

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Scott Gilbertson's avatar

A new book ~ exciting!

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3musesmerge's avatar

Right? First meeting with my editor tomorrow! Wheeeee!

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Scott Gilbertson's avatar

😊🎉

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Sue H's avatar

How wonderful 🌿

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3musesmerge's avatar

Thank you Sue!

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Bobby Kountz's avatar

Wonder-Full of Flowers 💐

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Sharon Marie Buckler's avatar

I love this! A new book and title! Letting going order to grow! Love the flowers!

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Bobby Kountz's avatar

“Expect nothing; live frugally on surprise.”

~Alice Walker

This quote is a beautiful six-word story!

Poise...

WOW!

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