Well, what good are muses if they only answer one question each day? My self talk for a long time in conversation has been ask, listen, race to my known conclusion or interpretation and then "what question could I ask that the answer would or could change my mind?" There are variations, of course, but the basic idea is to keep me listening and learning. The catalyst for Susan Scott's "Fierce Conversations" was a phrase of David Whyte's "that the conversation is the relationship".
What kind of relationship are you having when no one is listening? What are the consequences of that?
Oh, why aren't you a Quaker? If you're identify as being not one thing does it mean that you are all of everything else?
The muses have the attention of their audience in mind. They just read in the Farnam Street Newsletter that, "Every lecture should make only one point."
Where do I start? What are youse guys - youse and the muses - doing with grits? (A two-syllable word in local speak)
I didn’t have my Fat Tuesday hat on, and Paczki was unfamiliar to me so that stimulated a search. Graci.
But help me out here: “Come on, baby, Do the locomotion.” Weddings? Reception dance favorite from back in the day? I was thinking more Polkas and Umpahs! (My best attempt at exhibiting ignorance of regional differences, coupled with overgeneralization) Please don’t tell Thalia of the Trivers twang!
In a serious vein, your treatment of how we interpret, or misinterpret, regional dialects is spot on. That was my impetus for “Polkas and Umpahs” if any excusing is possible. “Oh yaa + Youse = Polka.” The phrase, “Contempt prior to examination,” comes to mind, from William Paley.
In conversation some years ago, a successful engineer commented on his rather unusual diction. In college he had been told to “speak like normal people” if he aspired to success in a business climate with other educated professionals. He struggled and felt less than. Later in his career a respected leader where he worked advised this engineer to “not change a word,” but in fact to accentuate his natural dialect. The leader advised that in doing so, when he spoke the listener would have to pay close attention, causing his words to leave a stronger impression.
His “mouth full of marbles and a southern drawl” did not have a negative impact. He rose to a position that oversaw quality control in a trans-Atlantic organization. “He jes don’t talk right,” some fellow employees would note.
We've discussed I/Thou at some length and my recent re-watch of Into the Wild reminded me of the potential that lives when we can set our snap judgements aside. Chris McCandless connected with a redneck South Dakota farmer, a pair of hippies, and a straight-laced old man. His acceptance and authenticity made space for magical math in every relationship.
Well, what good are muses if they only answer one question each day? My self talk for a long time in conversation has been ask, listen, race to my known conclusion or interpretation and then "what question could I ask that the answer would or could change my mind?" There are variations, of course, but the basic idea is to keep me listening and learning. The catalyst for Susan Scott's "Fierce Conversations" was a phrase of David Whyte's "that the conversation is the relationship".
What kind of relationship are you having when no one is listening? What are the consequences of that?
Oh, why aren't you a Quaker? If you're identify as being not one thing does it mean that you are all of everything else?
The muses have the attention of their audience in mind. They just read in the Farnam Street Newsletter that, "Every lecture should make only one point."
https://fs.blog/2021/02/gian-carlo-rota/
Is it possible to go deep and stay shallow at the same time?
I've changed my mind about a lot of things...and sometimes back again. Case by case basis?
Krishnamurti said, "Relationship only has meaning if it is a process of self revelation."
Why so serious? The Quaker thing is a joke...although it does point to a larger tendency of humans to make assumptions on the shallowest of evidence.
Heidegger, I believe once said "most of us flawed human beings have to confine ourselves to developing a single idea during our lifetimes" Relevant?
This reminds me of a time early in my career path where I was working seasonal retail and full-time reg job.
A coworker said "I guess if I was ever in that spot, I'd just want a better job."
Without knowing Heidegger at all, I'm tempted to read that phrase inspirationally, rather than a limitation.
If there were just one idea that resulted in a fulfilled life, what would mine be?
Yes, and...how does a mere human decide on a single idea?
So, the decision maker is? Who else or what else is to decide if not we mere mortals?
Presence.
Where do I start? What are youse guys - youse and the muses - doing with grits? (A two-syllable word in local speak)
I didn’t have my Fat Tuesday hat on, and Paczki was unfamiliar to me so that stimulated a search. Graci.
But help me out here: “Come on, baby, Do the locomotion.” Weddings? Reception dance favorite from back in the day? I was thinking more Polkas and Umpahs! (My best attempt at exhibiting ignorance of regional differences, coupled with overgeneralization) Please don’t tell Thalia of the Trivers twang!
In a serious vein, your treatment of how we interpret, or misinterpret, regional dialects is spot on. That was my impetus for “Polkas and Umpahs” if any excusing is possible. “Oh yaa + Youse = Polka.” The phrase, “Contempt prior to examination,” comes to mind, from William Paley.
In conversation some years ago, a successful engineer commented on his rather unusual diction. In college he had been told to “speak like normal people” if he aspired to success in a business climate with other educated professionals. He struggled and felt less than. Later in his career a respected leader where he worked advised this engineer to “not change a word,” but in fact to accentuate his natural dialect. The leader advised that in doing so, when he spoke the listener would have to pay close attention, causing his words to leave a stronger impression.
His “mouth full of marbles and a southern drawl” did not have a negative impact. He rose to a position that oversaw quality control in a trans-Atlantic organization. “He jes don’t talk right,” some fellow employees would note.
One of the trio (humans, not muses) enjoys grits and has prepared them with shrimp I believe. :)
My Paczki flavor choice was lemon. It was delicious!
Yes! The Locomotion is a wedding reception staple in my neck of the woods.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jxyU4W8iyeI
Thank you for the story about the engineer.
We've discussed I/Thou at some length and my recent re-watch of Into the Wild reminded me of the potential that lives when we can set our snap judgements aside. Chris McCandless connected with a redneck South Dakota farmer, a pair of hippies, and a straight-laced old man. His acceptance and authenticity made space for magical math in every relationship.